Roadblocks to successful relationship Nr 2: Suppressing emotions

Roadblocks to successful relationship Nr 2: Suppressing emotions

closup-coupleSuppressing emotions gives the exact opposite results from the desired ones. The reason for suppressing is because either you want you emotions to leave you in peace at this moment or because you don’t want, or cannot deal with them in general.

Most people have the feeling that by suppressing they get rid of the emotions. Making noise they push the fear away, being busy they avoid sadness, by moving all around they make anger disappear.
But whatever you suppress will return sooner or later.

Suppressing emotions that come from or in a relationship is like telling lies. Is like hiding always the truth.

The common way of dealing with emotions in a relationship is expressing or suppressing. Anger for example is destruction for a relationship either way. If you express it, and especially if you do it often, you have a relationship that is based on fighting and conflict. By suppressing it you create the conditions for guilt and separation.

To my opinion, in a relationship, the guilt that is coming from suppressing emotions, therefore sacrificing “for the sake of the relationship” is the best way to destroy this relationship, and live in hell as long as it lasts, sometimes too long.

Of course if you just avoid an emotion now and a few minutes later, when you have peace you deal with it, there is no problem, but my experience tells me that not even this is necessary.

Coaching can help you deal with them the moment they appear, without necessarily either expressing them and cause conflict and insecurity, or suppressing them and cause distance and guilt.

Coaching can help you change the way you deal with the emotions in general. Highly sensitive people need this more than everyone because holding on to emotions makes them really unhappy.

By removing all the heaviness and the drama from emotions, you can just live your life and enjoy your relationships in peace and joy.

And for those who think that life will be boring, I find it more boring to have to deal with the same fights, fears and anger constantly and with the same people. Freedom is boring only for the people who think that pain is the only way of living.

This website, since it's made for Highly Sensitive People, has been designed with dark colours and minimum information, especially moving parts. HSPs can process everything deeper and with more details, but if they have useless or even too much info they get easily tired and frustrated.